Ask and it is given - an uncommon love story - Journal of Nomads

Ask and it is given – an uncommon love story

posted in: Blog, Journal, Popular Posts | 51

Whenever Niko and I tell our friends how we met, they react with amazement. That’s why I decided to share our story with you. I bet everyone likes a good love story (even the ones who don’t want to admit it publicly), especially when it’s an uncommon one! Let me tell you how Niko hitchhiked into my life.

 

Ask and it is given - An uncommon Love story - Journal of Nomads

 

 

It was the summer of 2014. I was staying in a caravan of friends in Ireland. They were helping me getting back on my feet. I was recovering from a broken heart, had no idea what to do next and I had barely any money left. Not the best place to be in!

Traveling around the world sounds glamorous but there are moments when it can be hard, especially when you have no sense of direction or no money. I think we’ve all been there before. There is a famous quote: “Sometimes you have to get lost to find yourself”. And it’s true, sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to find out what you want to do with your life!

 

It wasn’t necessarily the broken heart that made me feel lost. It was not knowing what path I wanted to take. I was tired of traveling without a direction. The first years of my nomadic life had been fun – going to far away places, meeting lots of people, having plenty of adventures – but after a while, I had the feeling I was walking around in circles.

I had to start over in every country – arriving alone, finding a job to earn some money and finding a place to live for a while. Of course, I kept visiting beautiful areas and made new friends but I felt those trips lost their magic. I kept ending up being broke and alone and I had had enough of it! Traveling without a purpose is like living without a purpose or direction. It loses its meaning and it becomes superficial, boring and empty.

 

The previous year I had tried to live a more settled life in the UK with my partner but I had felt a restlessness. Although I was tired of traveling without a goal, I started to miss my life on the road. I thought I just had the post-travel blues. I could fool my mind but in my heart, I was still a nomad.

What does life do when you’re not following your path? It gives you a really big smack in the face! My relationship came to an end. At first, I was angry and heartbroken. I didn’t have a clue about what I should do or where I should go. In an impulse, I decided to visit friends in Ireland. They had a beautiful little retreat in a forest called Temple Grove and I was welcome to stay in their caravan for as long as needed to get back on my feet.

 

Temple Grove - Journal of Nomads

The cottage in Temple Grove

 

 

Temple Grove - Journal of Nomads

The beautiful garden of Temple Grove

 

 

Ask and it is given - An uncommon Love story - Journal of Nomads

Enjoying the view near the natural swimming pool

 

 

So there I was, tucked away in the little colorful caravan, reflecting and contemplating about what I wanted to do with my life. I was turning 30 and I felt it was time to stop walking around in endless circles and start creating a direction for myself.

 

My friends lent me a book called ‘Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires ‘by Esther and Jerry Hicks. In that book I read about the importance of knowing what you want, having clear intentions and how to manifest dreams into reality. One of the steps was writing a wish list (you can compare it with writing a letter to Santa Claus when you were a child). I decided to try this out.

 

Temple Grove - Journal of Nomads

 

 

On my 30th birthday, in the company of a bottle of red wine, I made a wish list. The first thing I wrote was that I would realize my dream of being a writer. I had been dreaming of this since I was a child but never put those thoughts into action. I had also dreamed of being a photographer. I had played with my camera for years but now I wanted to take my photography to a professional level. I realized that I could start a website to share my stories and photos and it could serve as a purpose within my travels.

 

I wanted to go overland to Africa or Asia. It sounded like a fun challenge! I also wished for a travel partner. I had traveled solo for years and I felt I would enjoy this adventure more with a partner who was on the same level as me, had the same travel experience and wanted the same things that I did. And to finish my list, I wanted to learn more languages, especially Spanish.

 

It didn’t seem impossible to manifest my wishes. I just had no idea where to start. I was living on my last 100 euro so I definitely needed to find a way to earn some money. I decided to have faith that things would somehow work themselves out.

 

A few days later I received an email from a friend. He was a traveler who my parents had picked up in Calais (France) in the summer of 2013 while he was hitchhiking. They had invited him to their house and he had even slept in my room while I was working in a hotel in the French Alps.

 

I only spoke once with him on the phone when my mum told me they had a hitchhiker in their home. We became friends on Facebook and every now and then we would have a short chat about where we were in the world and what we were doing there. In his latest email, he told me that he was going to Lyon in France to earn some money grape picking and he invited me to come and join him. You might have guessed it already, the name of this guy was Niko.

 

Ask and it is given - An uncommon Love story - Journal of Nomads

 

 

It sounded romantic, picking grapes in the French vineyards. I had never tried it before. It would also be fun to finally meet Niko. I decided to let the idea rest for a while and went for a few days to a little music festival in the nearby village. While there I met some French travelers who started talking to me about grape picking and how it’s a great way to earn some extra cash. A couple of days later I met a Dutch traveler. When we were talking about jobs, he advised me to go grape picking. He had done it before in Lyon and he loved it. Was this coincidence or was the Universe trying to tell me something? I decided to take it as a sign. That same week I sent Niko a message I would meet him in Lyon.

 

About five weeks later we saw each other for the first time. During our first hour together Niko told me about his plans of hitchhiking to South-Africa. He wanted to document the whole trip by making a web series. He was looking for someone who loved being behind a camera. When he asked me if I wanted to join him on this adventure, I didn’t think twice. It might seem very impulsive and naive, going on a big journey like this with someone who I barely knew. But it felt so right to do this. This is what I had wished for on my birthday! And this is how the story of Journal of Nomads began.

 

Ask and it is given - An uncommon Love story - Journal of Nomads

 

 

After the grape picking, we went to Ireland where we worked and prepared for the journey. We had initially planned to stay there for three months but ended up staying for eleven months. We lived together in the small caravan in Temple Grove (yes, the same one where I wrote my wishlist), worked side by side to earn money and made a website. During that time our love for each other grew and we decided not only to hitchhike to Africa but across the whole world.

 

Ask and it is given - An uncommon Love story - Journal of Nomads

working side by side

 

Call it the Universe, God, magic or whatever you want, but this is how life responds when you choose a direction, set clear intentions and dare to follow your path! Writing a wish list can also help…

 

To be really honest, not everything on my list came true: I still don’t speak Spanish. I got way too distracted learning Turkish instead.

 

 

Studying Turkish together
Studying Turkish together

 

 

Do you have or know an uncommon or beautiful (love) story? Let us know in the comments below!

 

Ask and it is given - An Uncommon Love Story by Journal of Nomads
Pin me!
Follow Cynthia:

Writer, photographer and co-founder at Journal of Nomads

I have Belgian roots but the world has been my home for the past 7 years. I'm an artist at heart and often get lost in my thoughts. I like to create some-thing out of no-thing and once I feel inspired, I'm unstoppable. I love telling stories and taking photos, showing the beauty and extraordinary of the world around me. Oh, and I love making the impossible elegantly probable. Once you realize that you're a creator and the world is your playfield, there's no limit to what can be done!

51
Leave a Reply

avatar
27 Comment threads
24 Thread replies
0 Followers
 
Most reacted comment
Hottest comment thread
28 Comment authors
CynthiaPaul and CaroleGirlAstrayJoseph HumphreysJournal of Nomads Recent comment authors
  Subscribe  
Notify of
Paul and Carole

Found you on You Tube and clicked through to this story. So lovely to hear how you and Niko met, it was certainly meant to be!

GirlAstray

Very heartwarming 🙂 makes me want to write our story down as well! btw i was trying to learn Russian, but also got sidetracked by Turkish 🙂

Joseph Humphreys
Joseph Humphreys

Ah, what a great way to meet the love of your life. Even a cynical grump like me had his heart warmed by reading this story 🙂 I completely agree that sometimes you do have to hit rock bottom to then get your life changed and redirected in wonderful ways you never thought possible. Glad that’s what happened for you, and that this website was born from it!

Beautifully Travelled

Such a cute story and what a cool way to meet. I think relationships form in all sorts of ways. Essentially you just need to have common interests. Making plans is useful but there always needs to be some flexibility for things not to go to plan. Thanks for sharing your beautiful story!

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

I agree with you, there are many different relationships in many different forms. What brings people together is common interests, the same level of thinking and feeling, the same perspective on life or just the same way of being in general. It definitely helps when you have the same goals in a relationship, or better, when you walk on the same path. There will always be differences but that makes a relationship (love-friendship-family) also very interesting!

Kate Carter Hickey
Kate Carter Hickey

I wrote out my wishlist/ goal list when I was 25 and man…was I off course. I did it again for the year before 30 and the day after my birthday I met someone wonderful who is flying to Seoul as soon as we can line up our travel plans (the next two weeks!). I’m over the moon and just praying that it ends up being the way I hope it is now, and the way your love story has been!

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

Kate, from the bottom of my heart I wish that your wishing list also will manifest the way it did for me! It’s so exciting that he is flying to Seoul to see you and I wish you an amazing time together!! xxx

Dash the Map
Dash the Map

Cynthia, what a very interesting way to meet. You will now have a great story to tell your kids and grandkids on how you two met. It’s cute how you mentioned that he hitchhiked into your life.

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

It’s indeed quite a story. Whenever we tell it to people, they love it too 🙂 I’m still amazed how it all happened and yes, who knows, one day we might tell it to our children. But first we’ll make this long long journey around the world 🙂

Travel Lushes
Travel Lushes

Aww Cythina!! I feel like I’m always learning more and more about your backstory. This one makes me smile for so many reasons. I can completely relate to this. The book you read sounds very similar to a documentary I watched called “The Secret” which talks about the same principles. Thinking positive thoughts, saying what you want, being specific, etc. Your book told you to write a wish list – whereas the documentary I watched instructed me to make a vision board. Same principles, different instructions. I made my vision board as I was watching the documentary. One quadrant of… Read more »

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

Oooh, Ashley, that is also an amazing love story!! I’m so happy for you!!
Yes, the Universal laws work with positive energy, positive intentions and a positive perspective on life. It definitely is magical. I’m still amazed by how it works. There have been amazing things happening in the past two years and although I know I’ve created it with my own thoughts and well-being, I still find it magical and inspiring 🙂 I can’t wait to see your wedding photos!! I’ll be looking forward to it! Will you make a vlog about your wedding?

Maggie Alexander
Maggie Alexander

Thanks for sharing your story! I always said that whoever I marry, has to be a fellow traveler. So when I met my then boyfriend in 2006, we went on a road trip across the US together a year later. People said we were crazy, no one survives that much time in a car together. Well we had a blast, got married a year later and have been traveling the world non stop since (now with a tiny globetrotter in tow!). So glad you found someone that shares the same interests and passions!

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

That is a beautiful story Maggie! Thank you so much for sharing that with me! It is very special to find someone with whom you can share the same interests and passions, who wants the same things in life and who is on exactly the same level as you are. I’m so happy that you’ve found that someone too and even created a little globetrotter together! I wish you lots of love, adventure and happiness on your path around the world!

Angela Terry
Angela Terry

Your story is beautiful. This piece was extremely well written and full of raw emotions that help your readers connect with you. I wish you the best 🙂

Journal of Nomads
Journal of Nomads

Thank you so much for your beautiful words Angela!! <3

Arianne Wolodarsky
Arianne Wolodarsky

Hi Cynthia! I originally read about you guys on that NOMADS group on facebook, and decided to delve further into what you two were about. I love reading about other travellers, and especially how love and travel can work so well together when you meet the right person. I’m currently on a “hiatus” with my travel partner, whom I very much want to be my life partner too. For now, we have had to go our separate ways, but the way we met was also interesting. We met briefly one afternoon playing ping-pong whilst talking about our travel plans and… Read more »

Jennifer St Louis

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story! I love hearing how fellow travelers find each other and your journey is so inspiring! I love your list and think that I will give it a try.

LifeStyleTalks

Waw! What an AMAZING story! I almost can’t believe it 🙂 It is indeed almost ‘magic’!

Tanja
Tanja

Hi Cynthia
I’m amazed by your beautiful story. I am on the edge of setting my feet loose too. It’s a big step I’ll be taking in my life, but it is calling for me for a long time now. I need to earn some money too before I set loose. Can you please give me some more info on the grape-picking?
Love & light, Tanja

Ajay Sood

Now that’s an ideal love story! I say this since I believe you are living happily together, travelling together, doing what you like! So, it truly is ‘happily ever after’!

Authentic Travels

Love a lot this article. It is a very good kick in the butt never to give up your biggest dreams.

Laura
Laura

we did not travel that long nor sticked together, however we are still close friends. And there have quite some waters flown under the bridge… I met Jim while hitchhiking. He and his friend picked me up; where Jim himself just a few days ago met his new friend (the guy who actually had a car) because Jim`s and his uncles road trip stopped since uncles car broke down. This other guy happen to have a car service right near the place where his car broke down. So they both were heading to the party some hundreds kilometers away. Right… Read more »

Colby

Such a beautiful story and inspiration for the hopeful romantic that I am 🙂

Taylor

This is so sweet and inspiring! I’m going to have to sit down and write a list for myself now. Also picking grapes in Lyon sounds awesome,
I’ll have to try it one day! 🙂

Ami

That is such a cute story and I loved reading about it. 😀

Emily
Emily

The Universe, the Divine Light and Divine Beings, Energies, and so much more!!
Pulled together in empowerment and fate, you were always meant to be together, your paths interlocked! Destiny <3

Indrani

This is such a beautiful love story! Looks like God had a hand behind this! 🙂
Glad you both found each other, wish you the very best in your journey ahead!

Heather

Fantastic story. Good things happen when you open yourself up to receive.

Martina
Martina

Wow. what a beautiful love story! It’s great when you meet your soulmate and the coolest thing of all is that actually your parents played an important role in it! When I saw Bert for the first time (at the university we both went to become English and Geography teachers after having quit our previous jobs) he was riding a pink ladies bike, having no hair on top of his head but still trying to have long hair (don’t even try to picture it!!!) and wearing some kind of Indian shirt. I was thinking “Oh my god, what a weird… Read more »

Tabatha Méndez
Tabatha Méndez

I have always wandered how did Nicko and you knew each other. Knowing him I did imagine something like that. Beautiful love story, all woman in thins world dreams with a love story, and I dream with one like yours. So lucky what you both are leaving now, traveling around the world it’s amazing! I am planing a trip around Canada, which I love. I am from Mexico, Nicko was my French teacher for less than a year, I think. He should teach you Spanish, he speaks it very well, and he is a good teacher, but Nicko is good… Read more »

Marcel
Marcel

Reading this seems like finding the greatest possible happiness. I don’t think two people could have been happier than you are. I can tell you both are incredibly good at what you’re doing, and I’m glad I can follow your steps via such posts! And you’ve already become a travel writer, Cynthia! (photographer, too)

Shelly

Awesome story guys! You truly are an inspiration to others. I love learning more about you.

yara coelho

I LOVE your story! And I truly believe that when we set our mind and soul into something big, all our wishes come true. I haven’t gone through Ester Hicks yet, but I’m reading “A course in miracles” and I’m having the same experience… it’s mind blowing how we create our reality.

Safe and happy travels for you guys!